If Your Mom Disowned You, I’m Your Mom Now” – A Free Cross Stitch Pattern for Chosen Family

In recent years, the generational divide between Boomer parents and their Millennial or Gen Z children has become more pronounced, especially when it comes to politics, social issues, and values. For many, this divide has led to strained relationships, heated arguments, and, in some heartbreaking cases, estrangement. It’s a painful reality that some parents have chosen to disown their children simply because they don’t see eye to eye politically. But here’s the thing: family isn’t always about blood. Sometimes, it’s about the people who show up, love you unconditionally, and accept you for who you are.

That’s why I created this free downloadable cross stitch pattern: “If Your Mom Disowned You, I’m Your Mom Now.” It’s a playful yet powerful reminder that chosen family is just as valid—and often more supportive—than the one you were born into. Whether you’re stitching this for yourself, a friend, or someone who needs a little extra love, this pattern is a celebration of solidarity, acceptance, and the bonds we create when we lift each other up.


Why This Pattern Matters

The phrase “If your mom disowned you, I’m your mom now” has become a rallying cry for those who’ve been cast aside by their families for being true to themselves. It’s a message of hope and belonging, especially for LGBTQ+ individuals, activists, and anyone who’s been told they’re “too much” or “not enough” because of their beliefs.

For many Boomer parents, politics have become a litmus test for love and acceptance. But love shouldn’t be conditional. This pattern is a way to honor those who’ve had to create their own families—whether it’s through friends, partners, or communities that embrace them for who they are.


About the Design

This cross stitch pattern is designed to be bold, cheeky, and full of heart. The text is the star of the show, surrounded by a border of flowers and leaves to symbolize growth, resilience, and new beginnings. It’s stitched in a modern font with pops of color to keep it fun and approachable. The pattern is beginner-friendly, with clear instructions and a simple color palette, so even if you’re new to cross stitch, you can create something meaningful.


How to Use This Pattern

  1. Stitch it for yourself: Hang it in your home as a reminder that you’re loved and supported, no matter what.
  2. Gift it to a friend: If you know someone who’s been through a family estrangement, this piece can be a heartfelt way to show them they’re not alone.
  3. Share it with your community: Stitch it and display it in a shared space to let others know they’ve found a safe haven with you.

Download the Free Pattern

Ready to get stitching? Click the link below to download the free printable PDF pattern. It includes a color chart, symbol key, and tips for stitching success.


A Message to Those Who Need It

If you’ve been disowned, dismissed, or made to feel like you don’t belong because of your beliefs, your identity, or your choices, know this: you are worthy of love and respect. Family isn’t about who shares your DNA—it’s about who stands by you when the world feels heavy. And if your mom (or dad) couldn’t see that, well… I’m your mom now.

So grab your hoop, pick up some thread, and let’s stitch something beautiful together. Because sometimes, the simplest acts of creativity can remind us that we’re never truly alone.

With love and glitter (and maybe a little sarcasm),
Amanda Rose


P.S. If you stitch this pattern, I’d love to see your finished piece! Tag me on social media or share it in the comments. Let’s spread the love, one stitch at a time. 💕